Me: So, how do you do that, Bill?

Bill: How do I father people? How do you disciple, father? It’s interesting because for us, it’s not really complicated. You just hang out with people. You make yourself available to people. We’ve got a number of relationships with different people, but it’s also learning to do that. I mean, I’ve got a couple different groups that I hang out with mostly on Zoom and then I’ve got relationships with…. Actually, the book, “Always Loved,” by Brent Lokker. I meet with him, probably almost once a month. He’s a father to me. And so, it’s really opening yourself up to relationship with people around. You don’t have to be older. I think Brent Lokker is probably my age. So, it’s not an age thing. It’s a heart thing.

Me: Also, you know, we’re supposed to be the body of Christ. This is my little preach now, It’s not all about one way giving all the time. Sometimes I can have a friend, and in some areas they’re ahead of me and I can learn from them. But in other areas, maybe I’m ahead of them and they can learn from me. So, it’s not like we have to rank people based on who’s ahead, who’s behind, who’s the father, and who’s the child. But it is more about learning how to be interwoven; how to love and give what we have, and be humble; to be able to learn when we don’t know something and honor one another. I think that’s important.

Bill: Absolutely. I think a lot of that, Mary, comes with maturity. When you’re young, you’re passionate about what you’ve got and you’re pursuing to be heard. You’re also pursuing to understand. And some of us who are more verbal processor types like myself, I like to hear myself talk. Not because I’ve got this ego thing but just so I can understand a little more of what I’m feeling and thinking and processing. So, sometimes I’ve got a good friend that I’m working with now that we’re walking out a process of relationship. I don’t always agree with what he has to offer, what he has to share, but I have to honor what he has. And so that’s part of the rub. Iron sharpens iron in walking with people. You have to realize that you’re not the center of the universe. You’ve got to give place to other people, what they think and feel and what they’re walking through.

Me: That’s good. So, how do you honor what you don’t agree with? What do you do?

Bill: Well, you listen. You give people a chance to voice what’s in their heart without a preconceived judgment. I think that’s the struggle for me. I still have different perspectives and different ideas. I have to guard myself from reacting to some of the things people say that I don’t agree with. I have to set all that stuff aside when relating to people. Is that okay?

 I don’t see it the way they do, but why am I reacting to what they said? You know, if I’m reacting, that’s not their problem. That’s mine. What problem do I have with that? And so, I try to try to let the Lord work that process out. Otherwise, I end up messing up that relationship by becoming critical and judgmental. And I don’t want that. We should war against judging other people from face value. We should war against that. We should not allow that.

Me: That’s good, Bill. Wow.

So, it sounds like, when you’re warring against that… This is a question I’m posing: It sounds like you’re self-observant about your reactions and able to exercise the fruit of self-control. You pull yourself back from saying things that would be judgmental or critical of someone, and you choose to listen and not get offended. You don’t put your own opinion in there. You’re learning to be self-aware enough in the moment someone is saying something that is sort of a rub for you, that you’re able to go, okay, self, just listen and let them go ahead and talk. You don’t get in there and say something. That’s the fruit of the Spirit. That’s kindness and self-control, gentleness, love, and peace. It’s the lack of peace that pushes people to react with whatever.

Bill: Don’t you think that is  based on the fact that you don’t really feel secure in yourself? The reaction is that somehow I’ve got to defend myself. I’ve got to guard myself from something I don’t agree with, because I don’t feel safe in my own skin.

This brings up four basic needs. This originally came from Jack Frost as well. It’s the need for love, the need for security, the need for affirmation and a need for purpose. Not having those things. You live as an orphan. You’re not comforted. There are needs that are not being met. And that thing of security, I think for me, if I’m safe in my skin, go ahead and judge me. You don’t know me. If you’re going to judge me….

 So, generally speaking, I learned the realities are, “Judge not lest you be judged.” Judging comes from a place of reacting to all the things that have happened to us. We react and so we end up judging. Before you know it, the very things that we’ve judged start coming back on us.

Especially over the last 10 years, my wife and I teach people to forgive people but deal with their reactions. Because every time we’re hurt, we react and it’s usually in an ungodly way. We set things in emotion that just don’t go away unless we actively deal with it. It’s important to try to. After a while of doing that, you realize that any reaction you have is based on something you’ve reacted to in the past and it needs to get dealt with. Otherwise, you’re going to be reacting to everything that comes down the pike. Your reaction is your problem.

Me: Right. You’re talking about sowing and reaping.

Bill: Exactly.

Me: So, if you sow a reaction to something and it was an ungodly reaction, and you don’t repent from it, then you’re going to start getting it back.

Bill: Yes.

Me: And you’re going to get it back bigger, and bigger, and bigger, until you recognize what you sowed and apply the blood of Jesus to it. Repent, forgive yourself and others and clean it up. Then actually you become more self-aware, to not continue to react that way. Because chances are, when we have an ungodly reaction to something, if we have never recognized that it was wrong, we’ve probably done it more than once.

Bill: But usually, they’re surrounded by a way in which we were hurt years ago. That’s my discovery. I’m still discovering things to this day. Okay, I can see why I reacted, oh, way back there when I was so-and-so age, I reacted to that situation. Children, when they’re young, just react out of the situation, not thinking of the consequences to that reaction. And all those reactions, they don’t go away unless we actually physically see them and deal with them, because they’re laws.

It’s just like the law of gravity. If I was to jump off the roof of this house, I could say all I want to say about not hitting the ground; that it’s not going to happen. “It’s not going to. I’m not going to hit the ground.” But the fact remains. It’s a law and I will hit the ground hard. And so, it’s like sowing and reaping, the law of judging. ‘Judge not lest you be judged.” Because you end up receiving the consequences.

Also, there’s honoring our parents, that’s a law. When we dishonor our parents…. All those times of rebellion that I had growing up as a kid, I ended up reaping that for a season until I learned to deal with all that stuff. It’s a law. Laws are laws and they’re not reversed unless you  actually get to them, deal with them, repent, move on, and put it under blood.

Me: Without getting too personal about it, that really prods my curiosity. Can you give an example or two?

Bill: Yeah, I can. I can give you a perfect example. This was probably in 2008. I had gotten home from a conference. I was in Canada. We were being taught about bitter root judgments and bitter root expectancies. I got home and my wife Linda asked me to take out the garbage. I just reemed her up and down. I was mad at her. I said, “Yada yada yada yada!” And I was just brutal. Then, of course, I stopped and I went, “Oh my, what in the world is that?”

The next morning as I’m spending time with the Lord, I get a vision. I see myself sitting in front of the house, one of the houses that I grew up in, cross-legged, pulling weeds out of the front yard. It’s dry.  I grew up in California so everything’s really dry. Trying to pull these weeds was very painful; trying to get these things out of the ground. Of course, if I had watered the ground, it would have been a lot easier. But anyway, I was a kid. I was very angry that I had to be out there pulling these weeds while my friends up the street were playing football. I couldn’t be a part of that. So, out of my mouth, I was cussing and swearing lots of profanity towards my parents. How mad I was at everything.

And I went, “Oh my,” when I saw that. I went, “Father, forgive me for dishonoring my parents with my mouth and all that stuff.” I was probably 12 years old when this happened. And so, I asked God to forgive me and cleanse me. I took authority over the things that I had said. Anyway, then the whole experience ended.

A day, or two or three later, my wife asked me to do something around the house again, which usually would have caused me to erupt in anger. All of a sudden, matter of fact, I started taking the garbage out on my own. I started doing things around the house. Then one day I stopped and I thought, “Where’s the anger? Where’s the rage that typically would come? It’s because I took authority over that. I repented. I went to God for it. That whole reaction thing left. Now I’m a help around the house without all the reaction. By the way, my wife, one of her primary love languages is acts of service. So, boy, did that fit.

Me: Yeah, that’s beautiful.

I’m teaching a group of students and one of the principles we have touched on is the sowing and reaping principle. So, it’s interesting our conversation here wandered into that.

Bill: Grace and forgiveness, by John and Carol Arnott. That is an extremely good book. We buy bunches of them and give them away. They have principles and testimonies, especially Carol’s whole experience with her mother. She saw tremendous healing. It took a three-year process for her to walk through, but she saw tremendous healing and restoration with her mother who was very brutal, very abusive to her growing up as a kid. She was fully restored before she went on to be with Jesus and stuff. And so through that, through a revelation of all that stuff.

Me: Yeah. I’ve studied that, too. But it’s really helpful to have resources to use to teach from.

Bill: So yeah, that’s a good one. That’s one we highly recommend.  That book probably, I don’t know, probably has sold tens of millions of copies. It has gone out, all over the planet, that book. There are different versions. It used to be called, “The Importance of Forgiveness.” Now they’ve got it called, “Grace…” and they’ve added more to it, some amazing stuff on how to live in the grace of God.

Me: Excellent. Okay. So, briefly, back to soaking again. If you were to talk to someone who really hadn’t encountered the Lord much, they’ve heard about him, maybe heard some Bible stories or something, but they haven’t really encountered his presence. It sounds like you’re saying worship is a good place for them to encounter God. And being around others who know him can help open the way for a beginner to know him better. So, in a sense, it’s easier to encounter him in a group than it is to do all by yourself.

Bill: My experience has been that way. My wife has been different. My wife, much of her relationship was her and God alone. She’s been walking with the Lord for over 50 years, and she’s probably got 40 years of journals filled with daily writing. She’s written words in there that she’s gotten from the Lord. And and the main message that she got through the hardest times in her life was, “My daughter, I love you.” It was like a broken record, daily, because that’s what she needed to hear.

Most of us, even if we’ve had good parents, and sometimes people with good parents are the hardest to convince of their need for love. But it’s for all of us. That is really the core message of it all; it’s helping people to learn to be loved by God. And you know we are amazed a lot of times when we just hug people, and they experience the love of God.

Yeah, I would say for most people, it’s being around people who carry this love. These are the ones that come into that experience much quicker than the ones who don’t. It’s just being around people that carry the Father’s love. There’s a number of people, ministries out there, that minister this. And some people that are not really in ministry; they just emulate it because they’ve stepped into that whole arena.

For most people, it’s all about Jesus. And that’s a good thing. We really want to know Jesus. But see, even Jesus said, “It’s not about me. It’s about you coming to know the father.” Yeah.

And soaking, really simply, is learning to be comfortable in the Father’s presence. For a lot of us, it’s not a comfortable place because of all the abuse and all the pain that they’ve experienced. People have a hard time trusting. So, they have to find somebody with skin on, you know, that touches their life. I think the way to help people is to learn how to spark the hunger in people’s hearts. When I start talking about the Father’s love, people start getting hungry for it.

We had a series of meetings, this was probably 15 years ago. We were just sharing our story. A man, probably in his 70s, started balling. He walked up, right in the middle of my meeting, interrupted my sharing. I’ll tell you, he was just balling saying, “I’ve never known this love and I really want to know!” All I could do was hug him. For, the next two or three days while we were there sharing and ministering, this guy was on the floor crying, crying and crying and crying and encountering wave, after wave after wave of the Father’s love.

It’s the testimony that people carry, a lot of times, that really helps others see something more than where they’re at. What does book of Revelation say? “The testimony of Jesus is the spirit of prophecy.” When you testify what God has done, you become an open heaven for that very thing (that you’ve experienced) for that person you’re sharing your testimony with.

Me: Yes.

Bill: I expect that, as people hear my story; not because I’m a great orator, but because I’ve had a revelation of his father’s love. They’re going to experience the Father in a different way. Or, they’re going to experience a hunger that’s deep inside of them. I’m gonna pull on a wire on the inside of them that says I don’t know, I may not understand what that is, but there’s something about that. I have that, and the only reason is because, very simply, love cannot fail.

Me: Amen.

Bill: It cannot. So, when you give away God’s love, it cannot fail. It will bridge core issues in people’s lives. It’ll go down to the core. And whether you feel it, or see it, or experience it at the moment, it’s working because God cannot fail. So his love cannot fail.

Me: Great. Very nice.

Well, it seems like this is a good place to wrap things up.

Yeah, I just felt the power of the Lord on this conversation that we’ve had, and this word about love. And I believe God is releasing love into the very fabric of this recording, so that when people watch they will be receiving God’s transformative love.

Bill: Thank you, Papa.

Me: Yeah. So, I thank you for your time.

Bill: Can I pray for everybody, please?

Me: Yes.

Bill: Yeah. Father, I just thank you so much for your amazing love. Yeah. That’s unfailing, unconditional, unrelenting, always chasing after us, always pursuing us, always looking for us, always engaging us. Father, I pray that there be a greater release of the love that you are pouring out. Father, would you begin to, even for those listening to this recording? God, that they would be deeply impacted by your incredible love, that is wooing them to you.

Father, I bless each heart. I bless those who watch this with a deeper hunger to know our heavenly father’s love. Yeah. That spirit of adoption, that spirit that’s within us all, that cries Abba Father. It’s that cry. I want to know you as Papa, you as Daddy, you as the love, the lover of our soul. Father. So, I bless each one. I thank you for the opportunity, once again to share your incredible love and talk about the impact that’s had on our lives.

Let it go deeper, farther, further than ever before, Father, in those who hear this. And let it be such a unquenchable pursuit to know, at the core of each of our lives, that we might know the height, the width, the length, the depth, of the love of Christ which passes knowledge. That we might be filled with the fullness of God. And do beyond what we could ever ask, or think, Father, according to your spirit that works within us; who is always shedding abroad your love within our hearts, cascading wave after wave, after wave, in our hearts, Father, by your Spirit, in Jesus name. Thank you, Father, for this time. We bless you, Papa. You are so good. Amen.

Me: Amen. Praise the Lord. Thank you for carving out time in your life for this interview.

Bill: It’s not hard to do something you love.

Me: Well, God bless you and God bless Linda, your house and your family and your grandchildren. Thank you.

Bill: I receive that. Yeah.

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Link to Part 1: https://firestarterforjesus.com/2025/11/18/experiencing-the-fathers-love-with-bill-boone-part-1-crisis-encounters/

Link to Part 2: https://firestarterforjesus.com/2025/11/30/experiencing-the-fathers-love-a-transformative-journey-part-2-of-an-interview-with-bill-boone/

Link to Bill’s website: Bill Boone’s website: https://www.encounterhislove.com/